Mayor Mamdani
That smile has changed the mood in New York City. And yes, I know it takes much more than that to be a good mayor, but there is something to be said for Mamdani's optimism, his personability, his accessibility, his reaching out to normal New Yorkers (including prisoners who he watched one of the world cup games with), and his fresh attitude.
Errol Louis from NY1 has started a new series called Out of the Office with Mayor Mamdani and judging from the first episode which I watched last week, we are going to learn a lot about who Zohran Mamdani is over the course of each episode. And I like what I see!
In this first sitdown, Mamdani talks about a variety of subjects including living in Gracie Mansion, the midterms, antisemitism, building safety related to the collapse of the Pfizer Building on 42nd Street, his love of soccer and the pickup game he hosts at his home, the Knicks, the housing crisis in New York City, and much more.
Bjorn Borg
My dad loved tennis and played every weekend on our neighborhood courts with a group of fellow Usonians. As a result, I got to enjoy the game too although I am not a very competitive type so never played very seriously. But I loved watching tennis and always looked forward to the U.S. Open and knew all the players in my day and age. Bjorn Borg was my favorite and definitely my teenage crush.
Borg recently came out with what one might call a confession--from the person who never showed any emotion on the court unlike his poorly behaved American counterparts, Jimmy Connors and John McEnroe. Borg was the Swedish stoic--keeping it all inside. He disappeared from the tennis stage rather prematurely and I often wondered what happened to him. Well, here is his explanation, straight from the horse's mouth. Sad but also good that he finally got it out...
My other teenage crush: Guillermo Vilas
Good Advice About Worrying
Try the Finnish Worry Hour Method—it just might help…
I used to sleep like a baby and could even fall asleep standing up...Not anymore! it started in my late sixties--I now wake up several times a night and luckily I can usually fall back asleep pretty quickly. But so many of my friends talk to me about how they too have trouble sleeping and they wake up going over a long list in their head of all the things they are worried about. The thoughts just pour in--anxious about their kids, their health, the direction of the country, the state of the world, things they have to do, memory loss, climate change, their immigrant friends--you name it...
I don't claim an easy solution to this anxiety but I did recently come across a method that made sense to me, at least as a way to help our kids (and ourselves too) with anxiety. And as usual, it comes from Scandinavia--Finland to be exact.
The Worry Hour actually started as a remedy for kids with anxiety. This is how it works (but it also can apply to adults). As explained by @_eber_b on instagram, every evening, thirty minutes before bed, the child gets a notebook. For exactly fifteen minutes, they write down everything that scared them, stressed them out, or felt unfinished for the day. Then they close the book. And the rule is absolute: worries stay in the notebook until tomorrow's session. As the kid gets older (and hopefully us adults too), the boundary is internatlized. This is used by Finnish parents, teaching their kids this rule before bed, preventing 80 percent of teenage anxiety later in life.
But this method doesn't only work for kids. Assured Psychology has elaborated on The Worry Hour adapting it for adults. A person's brain learns that worry has a time and place, and bedtime is not that time. The shift happens because the brain stops treating every worry as an emergency. It's not "don't think about it, just not now." That small delay breaks the anxiety loop. The person sleeps. The worry loses its grip. But it doesn't have to be limited to kids. The goal is not to suppress worries but to contain them.
Listen to
Param Sandhu Gill--she explains this method better than I could. Definitely worth the three minutes of listening for all the worriers out there.
Painting of the Week
Latest commission for a couple celebrating a special wedding anniversary. 48” x 48”. mixed media on canvas
Charity of the Week:
Doctor's Without Borders
Book of the Week
About The Author
New York City based contemporary artist, Pam Smilow, began writing the creative lifestyle blog “things we love” in an effort to foster a sense of community during times of isolation and reflection. To read more about her and her art, visit her website and check out the essay written by Frank Matheis entitled The Sophisticated Innocence of Pam Smilow.
